Friday, November 5, 2010

Dear Mormon Friends

Dear Mormon friends,

Please don't ever use the phrase
"I'm sorry you feel that way" ever again. Thank you.

Much love,

Captain Midnight

8 comments:

David Baker-@DB389 said...

Captain, I'm sorry that people feel that way! I'm sorry they feel that that is an appropriate answer at all. On the other-hand, it is guy fawkes day.

TGD said...

Amen!

Silus Grok said...

“I’m sorry you feel that way” is a perfectly valid response — so long as they’re really sorry, and not just trying to end a conversation.

Scott N said...

Context is everything (although, as noted by Silus, any sorry expressed should be genuine)...

Good:
Jake: "Ugh. I shouldn't have had that fourth burrito. My stomach hurts."
Jill: "I'm sorry you feel that way."

Still Okay:
Bob: "I hate Joe. He's such a prick."
Joe's Brother: "I'm sorry you feel that way."

Not So Good:
Sally: "I'm happier now that I've accepted my orientation and left the church"
Peter: "I'm sorry you feel that way."

[Of course, Peter could mean "I'm sorry that your experience in the church made it difficult for you to be happy", in which case he might be a bit more careful in how he expresses his sorrow].

Scott N said...

Oops... I intended to say "any sorrow expressed should be genuine"... though I suppose the way I wrote it works, too.

Captain Midnight said...

Scott, that is brilliant :) And that is exactly what I meant by "I'm sorry you feel that way" being a bad phrase.

darkdrearywilderness said...

Can we throw out "gay lifestyle" and "hate the sin, love the sinner" while we're at it?

Eve said...

I second this.