Monday, March 9, 2009

Game Night

The last Wednesday of every month, my boyfriend and I like to have a game night for all the local gays in Provo. We just get together, play games, and mostly just sit around and talk. It's a lot of fun and it's a good excuse to get to know other "like-minded" guys in the lovely town of Provo. The reason I'm posting about it here is that if there are any readers out there who would like to come to our game night, I would be more than happy to have you attend. Just to clarify the type of crowd you can expect there: We don't drink at game night or do anything overtly "gay lifestyle-ish", but as a warning, there is usually abundant swearing and "vulgar" language. The next game night will be March 25th. If it sounds like something you might want to come to, send me an email or leave me a comment. You can find my email on my blogger profile.

Sunday, March 8, 2009

Confession Time

Time for a confession. I'd like to confess my celebrity crush that I'm most ashamed to admit: Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson. I find him incredibly attractive, even though I hate wrestling and I refuse to see most of his movies because they look stupid. Now, combine this crush with another crush of mine (sexiest President of the United States ever, Barack Obama) and it's like a sexy overload for me. Thanks SNL for doing just that.

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Matis Fireside

* * * I always enjoy going to the Matis firesides. I will admit, that I go more for social reasons than religious ones, but I do enjoy going and I love Fred and Marilyn very much. I am also an acting homosexual (by that I mean that I'm not trying to be straight, I'm not planning on living a celibate life in the church, and I'm not planning on marrying a woman - I respect those of my readers who are following those paths, as I would hope they would respect me for not following those paths). I have a boyfriend I plan to someday legally marry and spend the rest of my life with. I don't intend to write this post to make fun of anyone's religious views, I am mostly just venting. That being said... * * *

I went to the Matis fireside tonight, and to be honest, I didn't enjoy it. They had a singing group comprised of four women. I got there late, so I didn't hear what their group name was, and I don't really care to find out because I really can't bear to listen to the kind of music they sing (sorry to those who like them, I've just never really liked that type of music). In between their songs, they would take turns talking about various life experiences and gospel topics. It was all fine and good until one of them (I think it was Fred and Marilyn's daughter?) stood up and started talking about (and PLEASE correct me if I get the story wrong, she didn't really go into details about family relationships, so I had to kind of piece it together from the whisperings of people sitting around me) her husband and how he decided at a young age to "come out" (as she put it. She said, "for lack of a better term," which implied to me that coming out is somehow a negative term to her) and how he lived the "gay lifestyle," which she defined as clubbing, drugs, and sex. She went on to say that there is no happiness in the "gay lifestyle" and if any of us were considering leaving the church for the "gay lifestyle" we would not find what we were looking for. She then went on to say that it is impossible to have a gay monogamous relationship (to which I took personal offense).

I am living what I would call a gay lifestyle. I am gay, I have a boyfriend, I have gay friends, etc. However, I would NEVER consider doing drugs, drinking, smoking, or anything like that. I don't even drink coffee. It makes me wonder how the whole drinking, partying, and doing drugs thing became known as "the gay lifestyle." Heterosexuals drink, party, and do drugs too, but we don't call that the "heterosexual lifestyle." Why do the gays have to be synonymous with that lifestyle when just as many heteros do that too?

Also, I know I've only been with my boyfriend for a year and two months, but I expect our relationship to last. I see no difference in how I am with my boyfriend than how my sister is with her husband, or my brother is with his wife. The only difference is gender, the rest of the relationship dynamic is the same. I love my boyfriend just as much as my sister does her husband, or my brother does his wife. I don't like having someone say that just because I'm gay I'm more likely to cheat on my committed partner than a straight person would. I can handle hearing that kind of stuff from Chris Buttars, but I didn't expect to hear it at the fireside.

I've tried to represent her words as accurately as possible. That is what I heard her say, but others may have different accounts, which I welcome to be posted as comments here. I texted a friend of mine who lives back east but is extremely close friends with Fred and Marilyn and told him what she said and told him that I was offended. He replied that she probably didn't mean to make it sound as harsh as it came out and that she is really an amazing person. I will give her the benefit of the doubt. I know she meant well, and that is what she firmly believes. However, I go to the Matis firesides because I expect it to be a safe place where I can feel love and acceptance in a Mormon type setting without being judged or told I'm evil. Tonight's fireside did not feel like a safe and accepting place to me. I still plan on going every month, and I'm not offended anymore (I got over it pretty fast), but I hope that the firesides in the future will be more accepting of the diverse crowd that attends.