Save The Women's Research Institute

In October, BYU announced that they would be getting rid of the Women's Research Institute on campus. I first heard about the announcement on facebook through the status of a friend of mine. Hours later, she and a few other people had organized an effort to save the WRI. They created a facebook group and changed their profile photos to ones like the following:





I immediately joined the cause and then created a series of propaganda that really doesn't make sense, but is nice to look at:

(I like that she's holding the hot dog - or weenie - in her hand as though she has the power to destroy the manhood of anyone that dare cross her)

You wouldn't want your sister to end up looking like this, would you? (Well, that attractive Anna Wintour type person wouldn't be so bad...)

Okay, so this one is absolutely pointless, but damn he is attractive.

And this one is just good clean family fun, and I really think it gets across the urgency of the message.

UPDATE: Forgot to post this one.

The Solution To The Big Problem

Let it be said that I am not a major Twilight fan, merely a casual movie watcher. That being said, I have found my personal solution to the Team Edward/ Team Jacob dilemma. I would like to BE a Cullen, but DATE Jacob.

Jacob is by FAR more attractive, and more exciting than Edward, and I would definitely be all up on that. The Cullens, however, have very nice things, and cool powers and shit. So there we have it. Live with the Cullens, but go for Jacob. Sounds like a plan to me.



(My boyfriend, however, is quite Team Edward, which works out for both of us, seeing as how I'm pasty white and he's Native American. We each chose to go for what the other is, so it works out).

My Most Common Word Collage

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Halloween 2009

I previously posted about what I wanted to be for Halloween. Well, I actually went with the plan to be Anna Wintour, and I'm quite pleased with how it went.



I dressed up for our Halloween Game Night, and had a really great time. My feet hurt like a son of a bitch in my heels by the end of the night, but it was worth it. (By the way, if anyone reading this took pictures at the Game Night, please send them to me, even if I'm not in them. Thanks!)

On Saturday a few friends and I decided to get in our costumes and head to WalMart, just to see how people would react to our fairly controversial costumes.


I know you normally wouldn't see Anna Wintour shopping for scented candles in WalMart, but there you have it.


My friend Austin was a sexy mouse, like Karen from Mean Girls. You can't really see his costume in this photo, but he's definitely showing off the assets...


And finally we have Devin, in his Bruno costume, showing plenty of cheek.

We had an employee at WalMart came over to us saying, "They told me I have to give you candy... so, here you go..." She seemed really nervous to have to even talk to us. Sure, we were obviously gay, but that doesn't mean we'd hurt her. Haha. Then some guy came over and asked to take a photo with us. Needless to say, a good time was had by all, except the girl with the candy.

Halloween Game Night

How would you like to attend the greatest social event of the season? How would you like to be one of the "cool kids"? How would you like to be popular? Game Night promises all these things and more, and you are cordially invited to partake. If you would like to attend, let me know, either by leaving a comment or sending me an email (you can find a link to my email on my profile). If you would like to receive the official facebook invite (the event is listed as "secret" on there so those who aren't out yet are free to say "attending") let me know. This Game Night will be Halloween themed, and costumes are required. It should be lots of fun, and there should be lots of people to meet, so please let me know if you're interested. It will be October 28th at 8:00 pm.

Quite Gay...

This video is thoroughly gay, and I love it. I can't stop watching it for some reason.



A friend of mine found it on a site called HomoShame. A site run by gay guys who post things that make them ashamed to be gay. While I do admit that there are many times I feel "homoshame" I do find it a little troubling that we would have to be ashamed of our own. The situation raises quite the dilemma for me.

I have always been one to champion the rights of the extremely gay (the cripplingly effeminate, if you will). I hate it when people have to specify "no femmes" on their connexion profile or on craigslist posts (not that I read those...). While I'm not the most masculine person, I'm also not classified as a "femme", but I still get offended when people say things like that. Some of my best friends belong in that category and I don't know what I would do without them. I see absolutely nothing wrong with being "quite gay." I don't believe in telling someone to act less gay.

I do, however, have a problem with how people express their gayness sometimes. The problem is, I have no idea where to draw the line, or even if I have a right to want to draw a line. For instance, I have an intense hatred of leather and the bears who enjoy it, but I have no problem with drag queens. I'm not trying to tell people what they should or shouldn't be, but wouldn't it be nice if all gays could have the class of Tim Gunn and the looks of JP Calderon?

I really have no idea what I'm trying to say. I'm not hoping to change any minds with this post. I went into writing this feeling like I had a profound message, but the only moral to this story I can think of right now is: Leather is gross and there's nothing wrong with a womanly man.

The End.

October MoHo Post

In response to Abelard's call to action, and in light of having nothing to do today, I have decided to respond to this month's MoHo topic: Where are you in your journey?

How did you get to where you are today?

I've written about this before so I won't go into detail about the beginnings. Where I am today is a good place. My family is surprisingly accepting of me and my boyfriend, and so far they seem to be welcoming us as a regular couple. When my parents first found out about me they wanted to change me and told me that I was too young to know I wasn't straight. I had my mom read "In Quiet Desperation" and it helped her to realize that it's not something I can change. I think it also gave her false hope that I would stay in the church though. Time has been my biggest ally in gaining family acceptance. Things might seem shitty at first, but in time they really do get better.

Are you happy with where you are? why or why not?

I am very happy with where I am right now. I couldn't have dreamed that things would be how they are now. When I was a self-hating teenager, I thought that I would have to choose to either be gay, or to be with my family. I never could have imagined that I could have both. Sure there are things I wish were better, but overall I am very satisfied with where I'm at.


Where do you see yourself in the future?

Location wise, I have no idea. I know we'll eventually have to move out of Utah County if we really want to have a productive life as a gay couple, but I don't know where we'll end up. In 10 years I would hope that me and my boyfriend will be settled down somewhere, married, maybe with a kid, and life will be good. That's the goal, at least.

What roadblocks do you have and/or have overcome?

I think I've talked on my blog before about all the roadblocks I've encountered. The main roadblock I see in the future is finding a convenient state where my boyfriend and I can get legally married. Why can't we have any west coast states with gay marriage? (damn you, California!)

What advice do you have for others following a similar path that you have?

Anything I have to say here might be either good or bad advice. A lot depends on your situation. Be very careful about who you come out to when you're first coming out. Don't freak out when the shit hits the fan, just keep calm and it will get better. And finally, sometimes it might be better to give people a reason to suspect you're gay and let that idea stew for a while. I did this with my siblings and it gave them time to accept it before they finally asked about it.

What advice do you have for family and friends?

I probably don't have any advice that hasn't been given before. Just be patient and accepting.

So yeah, I realize that was a really boring post (my fault, not the topic's fault), but there you have it.

Anti-Gay Observations

Story #1:

At my new job I am a receptionist for a business in Provo. I sit at a desk with three other receptionists and we direct phone calls to people in the company. All the other receptionists are girls, and only the one who hired me knows I'm gay. I've been debating on whether to bring this fact up with the other girls, but so far I've decided I'll just wait until they ask.

So today one of the guys that works here was talking with some of the girls about a guy they hired who has Transformers tattoos. One of the girls said, "That's gay," (meaning stupid), and the other girl, not catching her meaning said, "I don't think that's gay. Transformers are too manly to be gay. Gay guys would get like a rainbow tattooed on their back or something." I was going to contradict her, but I held back. Most of my friends who watched the last Transformers movie were gay. I didn't hear much buzz about it from my straight friends, but the gay ones all went to see it. Also, 99% of my gay friends hate rainbows. Hearing their conversation didn't piss me off at all. I didn't mind what they said, but it did show me that maybe they won't be as accepting as I was thinking they would be.

Story #2:

I was talking with my transgendered friend (she is male to female, pre-op) the other day, and she said that she wants her first wedding to be at Disney World. I said, "First Wedding? You're already planning on being the next Elizabeth Taylor?" and she said, "Well of course, you can't expect me to stay married to one guy!"

This conversation would have been funny, were it not for the fact that my tranny friend is very anti gay marriage. It upsets me quite a bit that she is planning on getting married and divorced several times (after she buys a vagina she can legally do so in any state she pleases) but she would deny me the right to have the ONE marriage me and my boyfriend so desperately want and need. I told her this, and she just joked it off saying, "Well I have to stay true to my conservative upbringing." Which is the most fucked up reasoning there is, I believe.

Why is it that some of the most virulently anti gay marriage people are also the ones who are disrespectful of straight marriage? Will my gay marriage somehow ruin each and every one of my tranny friend's marriages? Will me being married to the man I love somehow cheapen the marriage of some rich old guy to a pretty little "girl" with a refurbished beaver? I can't see how it could.

Obligatory September Masturbation Post

Since September is now National MoHo Masturbation Month I thought I'd contribute my two cents on the subject. Did you know that masturbation, though enjoyable, can also be incredibly creepy? Case in point, this video:

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